Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Rituals

photo via Last Night's Dinner

As a follow up to my last post about the things that make our homes feel luxurious and relaxing, I've also been thinking about how to incorporate more rituals into my life.

Sarah at Pink of Perfection recently reflected on this a bit more eloquently than I could:

"I find myself very interested in rituals these days: the way they mark the passing of seasons, days, and even the smallest occasions. Rituals make the ordinary sacred — like the grandmother and grandfather of a friend who always sit down together for a glass of wine before dinner each night."

I also think rituals and traditions are important for couples (or friends or families) building a shared life together. Rituals can be grounding; they can be homages to the things that are important to both parties; they offer a new opportunity to connect over shared interests each time; and they can transform mundane chores like grocery shopping into something special rather than something to just get overwith.

One of our so-called rituals is to bike down to Park Slope when we have a free weekend afternoon for drinks at a bar, a snack, and some time alone to chat. But I'm trying to think of new ideas. For example, a champagne toast every Friday evening to kick off the weekend, or trying out a new restaurant once a week, or sitting down to dinner together every night sans phones and distractions. However, irregular work and social schedules make it hard to establish regular plans, so these ideas are really just in my head at this point.

What are the rituals that make your life more fun, more relaxing, and more meaningful? How do you find time to sustain them even when busy life gets in the way?

PS. I highly encourage you to check out the two blogs referenced above if you haven't already. Last Night's Dinner features the most beautiful photos of inspirational seasonal meals; and Pink of Perfection charms hearts with her musings on "a thrifty girl's guide to la dolce vita."

15 comments:

  1. in our first apartment together, life was kind of tough. the place was freezing and james had to keep the door between our bedroom and the dining room/office open so that i wouldn't freeze at night! every night though, no matter how much work he had, or how miserable we felt, we lit candles at dinnertime. and it made everything feel better.

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  2. we read the postsecret blog together every week.. i guess that's the main one :)

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  3. AH!! I was so excited to see you won over at The Bright Side Project!!! Rock on girl!

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  4. We make breakfast together and try at least a couple times a week during the summer to eat our breakfast out on the porch. It's time to remember why we loved our apartment and that it's the first thing that's really ours. We also watch my favourite show(Buffy the Vampire Slayer) in bed together. When we first started dating he wanted an excuse to hang out with me, so we would watch the show together and he ended up liking it too. Now it's our little thing.

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  5. a mountain bride - wow! i can't believe i won something! thanks for letting me know, otherwise i would have forgotten to check the winners page.

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  6. For us it's morning coffee. We heat the milk, brew a fresh pot, and enjoy a lovely pick-me-up before we face the day. (Of course, sometimes the tenor of the morning is more "blerg, can't think, give me coffee NOW!" than sweetly ritualistic!)

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  7. Does this now make me the queen of TMI? ;)

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  8. Every Saturday morning Nick and I get up and head over for Indian Buffet promptly at 11:30. It's delicious, and we always make it back home in time for my following episode of extreme... illness.

    I guess I'm a glutton for punishment. Especially when it comes disguised in a curry.

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  9. my fiance and i watch the office together every thursday night. even if we're not in the same city. it's not much but it's consistent.

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  10. i really like the idea of ritual. with Rado most of our rituals were things like watching Lost together and going to our favourite italian restaurant and the movies for a date nearly every week. i do like having these rituals everywhere though, with my best mates we have Book Club, Walk Club and regular dance parties. We try and have dinner together every week as well. I really like your champagne toast idea.

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  11. erin - i really need to get some candles!

    Amanda - haha no that's why we love you, bc you always have the funniest stories.

    we definitely have our share of tv date rituals...which is one reason why i'm opposing getting a DVR, because i like that we have to make the time to watch our favorite shows together when they're on each week.

    thanks for sharing all your great ideas everyone!

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  12. We do the Saturday Telegraph crossword every Sunday together. My idea of heaven especially when with disagree with each others handwriting.

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  13. i feel sorta feel lame...i cannot think of one ritual we have as a couple :-( we watch the office every thursday with a group of friends...does that count?

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  14. We live about an hour apart (not for much longer!), so one of us drives to the other's house every weekend. He makes me coffee when we're together and brings it to me just how I like it - with vanilla soy milk. *sigh*

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  15. anna - how cute that you turn your disagreements into fun!

    a mountain bride - that totally counts, and i'm sure you share lots of other little rituals you're not even aware of.

    mandyrosy - boys make the best coffee, don't they :-)

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