Monday, February 19, 2018

20 Things I Survived the First Year of Motherhood

A while back, I read a silly Scary Mommy article called 35 Things I Survived the First Year of Motherhood. It failed to live up to its interesting premise because about half of the items on her list were things that luckily DIDN'T happen to her, and were therefore things that she DIDN'T actually survive.

So here's my own list of difficult things that I DID survive during my daughter's first year. I'm not writing this for pity, and I know that many people have to deal with much harder situations. I just want to acknowledge that babies are each uniquely hard. I ended up doing attachment parenting because that's what felt right, even though it has simultaneously felt frustrating to have her so reliant on me. She's now two years old, and I'm still recovering...

  1. My daughter pooped in the tub (and on my husband) during her very first bath.
  2. I pumped milk around the clock and we fed her with a syringe when she was a newborn for a few weeks until she learned how to breastfeed.
  3. She refused bottles between 4-5 months old, making me afraid I wouldn't be able to return to work.
  4. Even after she started taking bottles again, she refused to be comforted by anything besides me and nursing at night (meaning my husband can't give me a break...and it's still the case).
  5. I had to call an ambulance and stay in the hospital when she had an unexplained episode of vomiting and difficulty breathing at 6 months old.
  6. She went under anesthesia for eye surgery when she was 9 months old.
  7. Most of her naps were only half an hour until she was almost a year old. 
  8. She was awake for an hour in the middle of the night, almost every night when she was 7, 8 and 11 months old. And I still went to work.
  9. She didn't sleep through the night until she was 17 months old.
  10. Our whole family was sick nearly 2 months straight during her first fall.
  11. I couldn't eat dairy or soy for a year, because she was intolerant to them through breastmilk.
  12. I learned that she's allergic to nuts when she was 8 months old and had full body hives.
  13. I still nursed my daughter twelve times a day at a year old.
  14. She refused most solid food until she was 9 months old, and didn't learn how to ingest food without gag vomiting or spitting it out until she was almost a year old. 
  15. Therefore, I was worried she would never stop breastfeeding and learn to eat.
  16. I accidentally hit my daughter in the head with a laptop when she was 6 weeks old, she rolled off the couch when she was 5 months old, she fell off the couch during a tantrum when she was 18 months old. (She was fine each time.)
  17. I pumped four times a day at work to produce enough milk for her at daycare.
  18. I went to four weddings with a baby, during three of which she wouldn't take a bottle (meaning I couldn't really drink).
  19. Going to daycare or grocery shopping meant walking while carrying 30lb+ combined with a backpack and my daughter on my front.
  20. I didn't exercise for a year, unless you count all the walking while babywearing.
What have you survived?

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